Communication, Humor, and Experimentation: 10 Tips for Disabled Sex The Body Is Not An Apology
I was a pretty typical teenager when it came to sex. I wanted it and wanted to know more about it. When the classes I took in school failed to tell me how sex happens for folks with disabilities, I turned to the resource kids in the ’90s turned to for everything: Google. The results were terrifying. Most sites told me that good sex probably wasn’t possible and others were dehumanizing. It was at that moment I realized I’d have to figure it out for myself. Below are ten things I’ve learned that I wish someone could have told me back then. 1. Talk before you fuck. This is advice I’d give anybody who is about to have sex with a new partner. However, if one of you has a body that moves differently, this can be especially key. These conversations can be awkward at first, but once you get the hang of it, it can be part of the fun. Talk about likes and dislikes, but don’t stop there. What are your personal boundaries? For me, for example, I have trouble getting up off my back, so I’m nev...