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We believe that there must be space to tell the story of EVERY body and we are grateful to those who have shared their stories with us so that we might share them with you. If you are struggling with an eating disorder, there is help. You can reach the t oll-free, confidential National Eating Disorders Association Helpline in the US at 1-800-931-2237. You are not alone. I was 20 years old when I decided to tell my mom that I had been struggling with bulimia. Her eyes widened and she said , “Que… pero todo lo que tu crees y todo lo que haces…” (“What… but everything that you believe in and everything that you do.”) My mom was referring to my feminist activism. Since my senior year in high school , I had become involved with feminist organizing, forming groups and events that focused on women’s empowerment and health. For my Jehovah’s Witness mom, feminism was an outlandish and extreme movement , but she nonetheless became familiar with feminism through my activism. Her reaction...

This article originally appeared in  EverydayFeminism.com under the title “4 Ways White People Can Process Their Emotions Without Bringing the White Tears” and is reprinted by permission. If you’re a white person who has been in many activist spaces, then you’ve probably experienced a specific, often unspoken ground rule: There’s no room for white tears in this space. This sort of rule is instilled because oftentimes, in other spaces, your emotions, and the emotions of other white people, are constantly centered , nurtured , and coddled when it comes to conversations about race . Rather than focusing on the lived experiences and traumas of People of Color when talking about racism, the focus is placed on the host of emotions that white people go through when confronted with racism. Rather than focusing on how People of Color feel on an everyday basis from having to deal with racist institutions, interpersonal relationships, and ideologies, the focus goes to white people ju...

This article was originally published for PowellsBooks.org and is reprinted by permission from the writer. I have the distinct feeling I am not supposed to write this. As if by virtue of my melanin I have been contractually bound to an unspoken creed, the first two rules of Black Woman Fight Club: Rule #1: We do not talk about being lonely. Rule #2: We DO NOT talk about being lonely. This strict code is not without reason or rationale, considering the mere mention of Black women and loneliness has the ability to set a thousand pathologizing think pieces sailing across the digital waters of Facebook and Twitter timelines. Don’t be overheard saying you are lonely lest you want everyone from Oprah to your best friend, who just watched  The Secret  last week (15 years after it came out), to appear floating above your bed to tell you it’s because your negative inner chatter is blocking your chances at partnership. Go to church and your pastor will tell you it’s because you “ha...